When It’s Time To Say Goodbye
Arranging an appointment for euthanasia can be extremely difficult emotionally and for some leads to a feeling of guilt. These feelings are quite natural and are a reflection of the very deep bond you have with your pet.
Euthanasia means ‘good death’ and whilst it will not feel like that, sometimes the best gift you can give your pet is to make sure their passing is as painless and stress-free as possible.
If you are uncertain about euthanasia then please discuss it with the vet to help you make a decision.
After they have passed, you will need to decide how to care for your pet’s body. Whilst burial may be possible on your own land or in a pet cemetery most clients chose to have their pet cremated.
Cremation options include communal cremation or private cremation. In the latter case clients have the option of the ashes being returned to them via the Practice, in a vessel of their choice, for keeping at home ,or in a box/tube so the ashes can be scattered in a favourite place.
We have a very wide range of vessels available from quality wooden caskets and scatter tubes/boxes to urns, keep-sake hearts and picture frames. Please ask one of the Crossways team for some more information on these.
Grieving For A Pet
Just as every pet is unique, every relationship between a person and their pet is unique. The mixture of feelings that we each experience during pet loss will vary from one person to the next.
For some, the loss of a pet may result in a few days sadness and the shedding of tears. For others, the impact of the loss may be greater and feelings of sadness, despair, anger, loneliness and even depression may last for several weeks or even months. There may also be overwhelming feelings of guilt and self-questioning, particularly if a decision has been taken to have a much-loved pet put to sleep or euthanased.
Full acceptance of a pet’s death is a gradual process but a time will come when the pain of loss eases and it becomes less stressful to talk about the loss with others and re-adjust to the home environment without a pet.
When the pain has finally subsided and a person is able to talk freely about the happy memories shared with the pet, the path to recovery is well underway.
It can sometimes help to share your feelings with others, it need not be a lonely experience. Services such as the Pet Bereavement Support Service exist to provide confidential support over the telephone.
Trained volunteer befrienders are available to listen to bereaved pet owners with compassion and understanding. They can be contacted as follows:
The Pet Bereavement Support Service (run by The Blue Cross Charity) Tel: 0800 096 6606 or online at firstname.lastname@example.org or www.bluecross.org.uk/pet-loss
Please also pick-up our ‘Advice and support for pet owners’ brochure produced by Compassion Understood (www.compassionunderstood.com)